06 June 2006

A Tribute to NICE Guys...

To the Nice Guys...

This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal.

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl's every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they're at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don't end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled and unjustly abandoned this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent 3 hours painstakingly dissecting 2 sentences her boyfriend said to her. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn't worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you'd ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a humor that romantically linked her and the guy that she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for 2 hours and helped her concoct a counter-humor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn't have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing serious between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamlessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: oh, but we're just friends! And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you're not like that.

The nice guys don't often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don't seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can't. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical manipulative *itches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as , oh he's too nice to date, or he would be a good boyfriend but not for me or he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn't possibly ask him out! or the most frustrating of all: no, it would ruin our friendship. Yet they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their nice too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can't figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy) and what they do (I'm going to sleep with this complete jerk now). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice- guy- finishes- last phenomenon doesnt last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of the reainof thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is, finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.

So until those girsl are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you're sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the dpeartment store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my acolades, my acknowledgment, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well-deserved vindication is coming..

This has been sent to me by an officemate. I like it. Hope you like it too.
Sorry if I can't post anything. I am just so busy right now with the training and all.
And I am really sorry if I haven't been visiting some blogs lately...
I miss that. I miss you guys and gals and all the in-betweens.


  • nice one for nice guys.
    (oh, first time to comment first.)

    anyways, the article just nailed it!
    (most)girls/women are simply complicated.
    for more, ironic.

    i myself am guilty of being a "nice guy."

    but upon realizing the harsh realities of the complicated female mind and the stigma of the society, i decided to escape from being one, but i failed.

    nice article to whoever wrote it.
    reminds me of the movie jusr friends.



    By Blogger bulitas, at 9:35 PM  

  • brew: i have never seen this one so i enjoyed it a lot.

    irvin: naku, buti naman kilala mo sarili mo. ha ha. :]

    By Blogger ie, at 11:55 PM  

  • well, nice guys can be a bit boring. And women today will always be complicated because the world has become too complicated already hahaha. And there's just something yummy about bad guys... ;->

    By Blogger Tess Termulo, at 11:56 PM  

  • Aww, what a hearwarming post. I should read that out aloud since all of the guys in my barkada are the "nice guys".

    The nice guys don't often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don't seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can't.

    This is sooo true. The world should turn 360 degrees.

    And so is this:

    the most frustrating of all: no, it would ruin our friendship.

    I ALWAYS say that..

    Love you BREW!! Mwahhh.

    By Blogger juice is justine, at 1:18 AM  

  • love it. once i was a nice guy (sana maniwala kayo).. pero hindi na ngayon. i've changed a lot. and i've been guilty na hindi ako nagiging nice guy, although may mga ways na nagiging nice guy ako.

    nice guys finish last.

    yet they deserve to finish first... or just not to be in the last.

    nice article, brew! hehe. ikaw, nice guy ka ba? wahehe.

    By Blogger utakgago, at 3:09 AM  

  • @ bulitas - i myself am guilty of being a "nice guy." --- wahehehe... talaga lang ha!
    jewk. mwah! alam mo crush kita!

    @ ie - i enjoyed it too. ang ganda no0h!?

    @ tess termulo - hahaha... here come you saving the female species. wahehehe... and i agree, there's something yummy about bad guys peo i always go for the "nice" guys...

    @ justine - luv ya too. thanks for the frequent visit girl!

    By Blogger /iambrew, at 3:10 AM  

  • hehehe ako yata dinedescribe dito hahaha jowk....

    anyway, minsan kase nakakainis na ren... nice ka nga wala ka naman napapala. Kaya medyo binabawasan ko na pagiging nice ko... hehe...

    By Blogger Kiro, at 3:36 AM  

  • i practically live in this blog, dear brothah. LOL.

    where's your sidebar/navbar?!

    By Blogger juice is justine, at 3:44 AM  

  • That's gonna be my acceptance speech* when I win in the 88th Annual Academy Awards for Best Art Direction, Best Actor, Best Original Screenplay, and Best Musical Score.

    *reworded para gay guy ang POV

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:52 AM  

  • Oops, that was me btw.

    By Anonymous 4-time Oscar winner Vittorio, at 7:52 AM  

  • You can see nice guys alot on Movies. At first the overly beautiful girl doesn't notice him at all, treats him as a friend and tells her problems to him but doesn't like him THAT WAY...

    Fortunately at the end, the cute overbearing stupid guy breaks the girl's heart and realize just who really was there for her...

    So, being a nice guy isn't so bad. Hopefully if you are one, it pays off in the end. :)

    Brew, if you get the chance to blog surf again, you should comment in all my posts! lol! just kidding!

    By Blogger Jigs, at 9:50 AM  

  • Haha!

    This post reminds me of the movie "Just Friends"... Nakakatuwa!

    Being a "nice guy" does not suck at all. Since your a nice guy and all, you can easily befriend girls. Who knows, you might even get a chance to see your girl-friend naked. Haha!

    I did once... let's leave it at that. *wink*

    Hi Brew! Wala lang.. :p

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:58 AM  

  • am lazy (cause i didnt get to finish the article)but least am honest, dba brew???

    anyway... miss ya!

    By Blogger Bryan Anthony the First, at 1:29 PM  

  • hey brew,

    of course you can link back my blog, yours is already on my list. did you see it or were you too busy looking at other things?!?! ;)


    By Blogger R*Y A N, at 1:48 PM  

  • @ ron - kafal mo naman ron. wahehehe... joke lang. tnx for the visit.

    @ justine - hahaha. yeah i noticed. found my sidebar?

    @ 4-time oscar winner vittorio - new name huh? nice! and yes, it wud be nice for a speech. just put a gay spin on it! hahaha...

    @ jigs - i will comment, no worries. im just so busy right now. argh!

    @ jhed - you perve! hahaha... i really thought u were gay... ud be so cute for a gay guy. yumyum!

    @ bryan anthony the first - yeah at least you are honest. peo i suggest u read the article. maganda siya in fairness. wahehehe... miss yah too. and i miss blogging. hayyy... the most i cud do is read and react to your comments here. argh!

    @ ryan - hahaha. i saw it and a lot of other really NICE stuff... or should i say YUMMY. wahehehe... anyways, thanks for the link. i link you as soon as i get the time. argh!

    By Blogger /iambrew, at 7:30 PM  

  • ok ok i will... para sayo pare ko!

    By Blogger Bryan Anthony the First, at 8:27 PM  

  • @ bryan anthony the first - thanks pow... wahehehe...

    By Blogger /iambrew, at 7:29 PM  

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